Five Years and Counting

It was a little over five years ago I began my journey into cancer for a third time. This particular journey was harder than the first two, with intense chemotherapy, side effects, new challenges with the “industrial medical complex,” work, and new physical challenges.

During my treatment I was focused on getting through it and trying to keep my life as “normal” as possible, using my old definition of normal. This task included denying some of the physical changes that were taking with my body. It still amazes me that I was so focused on the future that I didn’t always notice what was going on in the present. Perhaps that was my method of coping with a life-threatening disease. Even with my future focus I experienced many of the emotional ups and downs that can accompany a life-threatening illness.

The good news is that I have come out the other side and I am here to tell my story and help others as they go through their own journeys. Over the past five years I have discovered so many things about myself and disease including, how to interact with physicians, how to ask for assistance, how live with physical challenges, the trauma that can accompany a disease like cancer and it’s treatments, how to use metaphors for healing and wellness, how to use humor to get through it all, and how to live my life with my “new normal.”

Using my coaching and facilitation skills I am sharing my knowledge with small groups that will explore how a life-changing disease can be challenging and rewarding at the same time. If this is something that resonates with you, please feel free to contact me at


Coaching Youth

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Being young is a time that is full of transitions, aches, finding out who we are, and sometimes getting distracted from our goal or dream. One way to help young people stay focused on their goals or dreams is to teach them how to be mindful. Coaching them through the transitions, aches and distractions is one way to show or teach them what it is to be mindful.

The first step in coaching anyone, including youth is to build rapport with them. This is done during a conversation. If you are a coach, it is usually done during an “intake” or a free consultation. One hurdle that can occur with youth is the mindset that we, as adults, know more than they do, which is not true when it comes to their dreams, goals, and territory. Communicating and building rapport with a person of any age requires respecting their perspective, goals, and desires.

Building rapport just happens to be the main topic of the first video training that has been created by myself and Cat Wilson. In this training module you learn how to develop rapport with youth, to create a goal, what youth think about some of their problems, and how to understand body language, including facial expressions and eye movements. We are offering this training in person on February 8, 2015. You will receive the video, a manual, toys and a open and fun learning environment and experience.

This workshop is for coaches, parents, teachers, grandparents, or anyone that is interested in helping kids of all ages become mindful and live their dreams and goals. For further information and more details, contact me at 503-560-4774 or

Using NLP in coaching

Many coaches have had some training in the use of NLP. NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programing. It can be described in many ways, but one of the best is the “study of excellence and a model of how individuals structure their experience. It was created and designed in the mid 70’s by John Grinder and Richard Bandler. Since its inception there have been many people who have contributed to its growth.